Most people think that using the will means being obstinate or stubborn or asserting yourself over others. In fact this is not the proper use of the will and this type of assertion over others is one of the major causes of humanity's problems.
The will is our innate ability to direct, decree, determine, create and define.
Proper use of the will requires no force or struggle. In fact whatever we struggle against we are adding more resistance to and therefore creating more of in our lives!